How do I stop myself from emailing/chatting to him - practical advice please?

Basically I've been having an online dalliance that I've really enjoyed but for a lot of reasons it must end. It has been so intense and I really need to be on the computer for work. Please, anyone who has been here give me some ideas on how to stop it. Practical ideas.


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How do I stop myself from emailing/chatting to him - practical advice please?
Tell HIM to delete YOU.


That way you won't be able to contact him, or when you do you'll get no reply. Or just tell him to end all contact with you.
Reply:If you have already decided that it needs to end, holding on like this will be really unhealthy and make you unhappy. It will prevent you from meeting your full potential and meeting someone else who can make you truly happy.





Honestly I would suggest just giving it up cold turkey. Remove him from your email, IM, and whatever else you may communicate with him on, and don't look back. Communicate with your friends and try to do things with other people so that you can keep busy and keep your mind off of him. Do you have a hobby you really enjoy or a goal that you have been meaning to work on? Focus your efforts on that in your spare time so that you are not thinking so much about him.





It will be hard at first, but will get easier over time. Just stick to it and don't give up! I know you can do it and you will be much happier for it in the end! :-)





Good luck!
Reply:Why not try telling him that you need to focus on your job right now and with all that is happening in the economy, it is best you work during working hours and not IM him all day? After a few days of you not chatting or e-mailing his emails will slowly taper off.





Or you could just go the completely mature route (hint-hint) and tell him that while it's been fun, it's over. No need to explain yourself either, your reasons are your own.
Reply:It's a choice that you and only you make.





Stay busy. Turn off programs that you contact him with.





This kind of thing gets addictive. Stop completely. If you backslide and contact him, you start over again with the withdrawal. Best way to end addictive behaviors is to withdraw from them completely. It will be hard at first, but over the weeks to come, it gets easier. Remove him from your contacts. Ask him not to contact you anymore.





Ask someone to help you, hold you accountable.





You can do this. It's a choice.
Reply:just be honest or delete him altogether e will get the hint you don;t need to give an online connection any reason you don't even know the man he could be lien to you about everything make sure you check him out before meeting him and if you don't feel comfortable talking to him anymore that is your choice.
Reply:If you have gotten close enough to have a relationship online, why don't you just tell him that it has to end. There's no reason to lie to him or give him reasons - just tell him. I think that's the right thing to do and the most practical thing to do. :)
Reply:Don't risk your job - no 'dalliance' is worth it. I'd recommend you be straight up with him. And to get your mind/heart back in alignnment, start dating and chatting with other men in your free time.





Delaine


www.iamdivorcednotdead.com
Reply:been there done that.





ask him to block you, that way you CAN NOT send messages. it was the only way for me to be able to stop
Reply:Delete him from your AIM buddy list.


And tell him to block/report your emails as spam.
Reply:tell it has to end





block his emails and end all connection with the person